Tuesday, December 8, 2009

The Christian Dating Game

Dating, Going Out, Going Steady, Courting, Dating with a Purpose,
Betrothal, Girlfriends, Boyfriends,
If your a certain age and your like me you hear these words a lot!!!!
Random strangers, will simply mention theses words when they hear that I am 18...
and I know that for most young people this is one of the main things that they really concentrate..or ask about. With all these different So-Called ways of finding true love, it can be rather confusing. What is right, how do I find the person that God has for me, without all the Heartache and trouble that comes with most of the ways above.

Well I can tell you that the Worlds way of dating, is definitely not the way, if you want to prevent breaking your heart, and if you want to give your future mate all your Love and all of your heart, then dating is not for you.

A lot of Christians say they are dating with a purpose, but just because you say I'll date Bob this week, because he could be the one I marry, and then go out with Harry the next because your not sure...is not the way to go, I think that would bring even more confusion and heartache as dating the worlds way.

The Truth is we want to Find our future mate....
But instead of constantly looking, we need to let God bring our special someone in our lives.
I know that I myself cannot find a guy that will suit me perfectly, But I know that God knows where he is, and what he is doing. So I know that if I leave this in God's hands...he will bring this person across my path, and Me, my family, and this young man will know it's right.
I know alot of Christian girls think I'm crazy, even my little piano student that I teach thinks I'm crazy...she is a cute little Christian girl, but because of her parents, she already has the worlds standard in finding a guy. She told me that her boyfriend broke up with her, and that he said that if he didn't like his new girlfriend he would come back to her. At first I thought this was funny, here's a little girl not even 11 years old yet and her heart has already been broken...it is so sad how we have let the world tell us, how to find love.
The Bible says ''Trust in the Lord, and do good;...
Delight thyself also in the Lord and He shall give thee the desires of thine heart.
Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him and He shall bring it to pass.'' Psalms 37:3,4,5
It also says.. ''Hitherto have ye asked, nothing in my name: ask, and ye shall receive, that your joy may be full.'' John 16:24
And '' Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh: is there anything too hard for me? Jeremiah 32:26
If you are where God wants you, and you are living for Him...then God will send the one your way, and I have seen many a time, that there is nothing too hard for God.
So you can play the Dating game, you might play your cards right..and find the one, But will you be able to give him all your heart, or does an old beau have a piece that you can never get back . I want to know that God gave me my man, and I want to give the Glory to Him, and I don't want to give my man only a piece of my heart, but I want to give him the whole thing...and I want no regrets, I want God's will for my life...and His perfect mate for me, in His perfect time.
Don't think that is impossible because I can show you example after example of where man thought it impossible, but with God nothing is impossible.
So young people when you hear those words, and people begin to question why your not Dating, or why you don't go out like everyone else, Just remember God knows where you are, and He will bless those that wait on Him.
Oh that reminds me if you have any questions or want some encouragement on waiting on God in this area please check out my friend Katie's blog. I love to read the stories from young ladies who have waited and God brought them the guy of their dreams..hehe please click here Those Who Wait to check it out!


Jennifer said...

Great post, Rebekah...very true!


Katie said...

Great post girl! And thanks for linking to my blog. : )